Anybody in a relationship can understand first hand how overwhelming fights can be, whether little or big. If it becomes unrestrained, it can eventually damage your relationship beyond repair. So today I’m going to share eight really simple tips to keeping fights in check.
- Hold Your Tongue – because you can never take back your words. So please, just restrain your words. Especially if your partner is someone who is extremely sensitive to words (but really, who isn’t?). Some people have a habit of just lashing out verbally when they are angry, if you’re one of those people, please learn to restrict yourself.
- Never Let It Get Physical – this is really scary for me, whether it’s hitting a furniture or hitting someone, once it gets physical, it will most likely only get worse and more physical in time to come. There’s no justification for lack of self control. Never get physical, why break your phone over an argument? Or attempt to break their head? Go seek help if you’re prone to violent outbursts of anger, better safe than sorry.
- Try Not To Leave Angry – except you walk in on them cheating or it’s getting physically abusive, then it’s okay to leave – in fact – flee. But if that isn’t the case, stay back, sit quietly and try to think things through. Logically. What was the reason for the fight? Was it worth it? Is there any way you could have handled this better? How do you avoid a future reoccurence?
- Say Sorry First – whether you are right or wrong. Just say sorry and cuddle.
- No Third Parties – it’s okay to ask advice from one or two trusted persons, but as a general rule, what happens between the two of you in the relationship, stays between the two of you. Even after you’ve broken up, it’s called maturity. And it goes a long way to speak about the type of person you are.
- Don’t Try To Cover Your A*s – simply put, if you are wrong, admit your wrong. Nobody’s gonna kill you for it.
- Forget After Forgiving – after you’re past an issue, please follow this suggestion and be past it for good. No need bringing it up weeks, months or years later in another fight.
- Remember The Fight Is Only Temporary – so don’t take permanent decisions for temporary problems.
I’m no relationship expert but these work for me and I know it’ll work for others too. Feel free to add your thoughts in the comments.
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