When it comes to LDR (long distance relationship), the popular opinion is to forget about it☹️. It’s impossible, headaches and disappointment?. They may be quite right but it doesn’t mean your ldr is going to be like that. I’ve been in a ldr that was a complete disaster?, I’ve also been in a ldr and it’s the best relationship of my life?.

Looking back now, I’ve come to realize some of the certain things that were done to make that relationship work, and I’ve decided to share them today. ?

Firstly, there was a lot of texting. Whatsapp is bae. We didn’t call as often because of different schedules but we left each other messages. Just a simple “good morning, hope you slept well, just wanted to wish you a day as bright as the smile you put on my face ” was enough.? We shared our day through texts, we replied whenever we got the chance.

Besides texting, we video called too?. These calls could last as long as an hour and I always made sure to record them so I could watch later. We live in a century of instant texts, even when you don’t always have the time for looong conversations, leave each other texts.

Next is sharing. When you share, you are already building a friendship and friendship is the best foundation for a solid romantic relationship. You can share your experiences by sending photos, screenshots, links, your favorite songs, even posting them an item like a shirt with your perfume on it???. It’s romantic and it strengthens your relationship significantly. You can also share with them your problems, ideas, dreams, aspirations. Never hold back in sharing bits of yourself and accepting theirs when they share too. ?

Thirdly, always have a plan for your next meeting. Or something you plan to do together (video call, watch the same game or movie so you can talk about it later)?. Keep a bucket list of things you’d do together or apart but talk about it after. The anticipation of something to do builds love and romance?. If you plan to see each other, make sure you cover every detail, plan the food, activities, conversation, location. Talk about it with them excitedly (of course you’d be excited)?. Lol. These doesn’t have to happen often so you don’t get bored easily, but whenever it does, try to make it as special and memorable as you can so you’ll be in high spirits till your next time. ?

Fourthly, flirting. This was daily bread and butter in my relationship, lol?. We never stopped flirting. Yeah we had those normal conversations and stuff, talking about life and philosophy and all, but we flirted a lot too. Like…. a loooot?. I can’t even begin to explain the length and breadth of how much flirting contributed to my relationship. If you don’t know how to flirt, it’s okay, it’ll be awkward at first but you’ll learn in time?. You don’t have to force it, I personally had to go through periods of trial and error before I got the hang of it.

Flirting is also a great way of discovering your interests and preferences before “it” happens. Ifyouknowyouknow?. Don’t hold back on sexting and sending nudes. The steamier, the better. wink wink

Lastly, there’s got to be complete trust, communication and understanding. You’ve got to be honest with yourselves and have certain agreements. Let’s just be realistic. I knew it’d be hard for him to stay faithful (not like he’d make it an habit to shag other women, but we could only meet once in six months or so), so early on, we talked about it (there’s the communication), and we came to an agreement?. I completely trusted him, I trusted his feelings, I trusted his words, I trusted his actions and he did the same too. If you can’t trust them, then why are you even dating them? ?

We were very different but we communicated our thoughts and opinions honestly and we were always ready to be considerate as well as listen. He understood if I had to be out of contact for a while because my schedule for the week was f**t tight, I understood when he couldn’t reply immediately or on time because his house had bad network reception. It’s the little things as well as the big things and communication, trust and understanding is key. If you don’t have those, you’ve got to work on achieving them. ?

I hope this article helped. Now you have the information, go ahead with that LDR and have the best relationship of your life. Kisses. ?